The last time I used this medium it really helped me thru a tough time......
Well I find myself in yet another rough patch and decided to give it a try again; my current delemma has to do with how I am percieved and how I want to be. It comes up a lot with everyone from patients to my closest friends that I am not always a nice person. And sometimes I have to admit I know that I lash out but for the amount of times it is actually brought up I cant account for.
I had a patient ask me this morning if I hated him. Honestly I dont. I just get so caught up in everything that I forget that there is a person with feeling on the other end of my verbal lashings. Which is ironic because I use to lie to protect peoples feelings and now it seems I have went to the other end of the spectrum where I dont care.
Caring maybe the very source of the change when I think about it. I have been in a state of "frozeness" if you will. That comes from being in a situation where my feelings didnt matter. Now that that has changed I feel like my whole person is being altered. The changes are similar to icebergs shifting over rocky lands turning them flat. The aftermath of it is so different from what it was before that sometimes it feels unrecognizable; And that is how I feel sometimes. Like I dont know my own feelings. However it is a fresh start and like dethawing anything it is painful.
This pain is what I think I lead with. The pain of how I got to this point and the pain of leaving it.
My dilemma now is to deal with the pain and to use my fresh start to change what I want changed. I want to be a friendlier person that people enjoy talking to and being around to and that they do not fear like some evil queen. I wish this process were painless but that is a frivolous waste of a wish.
Sunday, September 16, 2012
By: Shannon R Fields
Tells you that you are beautiful when you least expect it
On occasion sends you “Good Morning” or “I love you” texts
Would stand up for you against anyone- foreign or domestic
Laughs with you, cries with you, really listens to you
Loves you unconditionally
Shares his t-shirts
Is not to proud to let you lead
Looks at you like you are the most beautiful woman in the world
Knows that you have flaws and loves you in spit of them
Takes care of you when you are sick or drunk
Loves pictures and making memories
Is not afraid to let loose
Wipes away your tears
Knows when you need a hug
Doesn’t abandon ship when the waters get rocky
Isn’t afraid to hold you hand or kiss you in public
Is proud to introduce you to everyone he knows
Knows how you take your coffee and what you eat on your sandwich
Enjoys laying on the couch watching movies as much as going out
Knows your fears, goals, dreams, and fantasies
Can talk to you about anything and visa versa
Means “sorry” when he says it
Holds the door open for you
Carries in your groceries
Finishes your sentences
Lets you drive
I wrote this a long time ago and just happened to find it when I was cleaning out my external hard drive. However random it seems like perfect timing. And as I read over it for the first time in years I realized that this is still what I want in a man.